The Value of a Relationship Approach to Autism

In aiding children with developmental challenges,included as much as possible with typical peers.
we must first realize that this requires a teamThey may need additional support and
effort and a strengths based approach. It isaccomodations, but how will they begin to learn
necessary to not focus on what the child cannotimportant skills unless they have frequent and
do but look at what the child can accomplish andcontinuous exposure to the world around them. I
build upon this. Parents can enlist the support ofhave developed the use of what I term 'real life
professionals but must realize that it is they whorehearsals', where we may set up a particular
are the most important persons in the child's lifesocial scenario for a child. It may be such a thing
and that furthering the development of their childas being able to make a purchase at the grocery
is not just the work of professionals but is astore. The therapist and parents guide and coach
collaborative effort from everyone involved withthe child ahead of time in how to go about such
the child. It is neccessary that for anyan activity and then have them actually
interventions to truly be effective and helpful, thatdemonstrate it. Social stories and comic strip
they must be consistent and constant. Theconversations are very useful in conveying
interventions must be the same throughout allinformation as these children tend to be visual
domains that the child is present in.It is crucial forlearners. Social stories can be simply made
us to understand the environmental responsesbooklets that the child helps to create where a
that children have, whether they haveparticular task or scenario is outlined with what
developmental concerns or even if they do not. Ifbehaviors are expected. The comic strip
a teacher, parent, or other person has a hostileconversation is helpful in building empathic skills as
tone, a poor demeanor, a loud voice, etc. All ofwell as reflective thinking as we ask the child to
these things can be overwhelming to the child anddevelop captions for what different individuals
can provoke a behavioral response. All behavior ismay state and think in various situations.Lastly, I
purposeful and should be looked upon as so, eventhink it is crucial, though it may appear
negative behaviors. Behaviors are a way of thecontroversial to some, to state that children with
child speaking to us about a distressing situation ordevelopmental concerns can and will be benefitted
an apparent need or desire when they may notfrom a psycho-social and relationship based
be able to convey this to us verbally. Light, sound,approach alone. Some have decided to resort to
and other sensory stimuli can also producemedications, and I am placing no blame or
distress for a child. We need to create awarenesscondemnation on those who have made this
of what in the environment may serve asdecision, however making a suggestion that there
triggers to distress and seek to modify theare alternatives and informing of these
environment to make it a more comfortable andalternatives as well as the hazards of psycotropic
safe place for the child. We must also be cautiousmedication usage. First, I will not argue that
in how we view children. If we look at a childmedications can 'work' in the sense of subduing
displaying negative behavior as a 'monster' or feelbehavior. However, strapping a child to a chair
that because a child may be rambunctious atwould also work in regards to subduing behavior.
times that we must automatically resort toThis would be aversive and quite possible illegal. I
medicating them, then we have taken asee little difference between such an approach
negativistic attitude that will surely be passed onand that of using psychiatric medication. The
to the child. Children are keenly aware, evendifference is that one is a physical restraint, the
those with communication struggles, of adult'sother a chemical restraint. When we say that
perceptions of them. We should look at oursomething 'works', often we are not looking at
children through the eyes of delight and addressthe mechanism by which it works. Dr. Peter R.
behavioral difficulties not in terms of how we canBreggin, MD compared the use of antipsychotic
subdue, but rather how we can meet needs andmedications in children to 'chemical lobotomy' as it
resolve conflict and remove distress.The floorblunts the functions of the frontal lobes. Thr risk
time model is of particular usefulness in workingof tardive dyskinesia, a permanent disfiguring
with children with communication and socialneurological impairment exists with these drugs. In
struggles. For those children who are non-verbal,addition, such drugs as Risperdal are prescribed
we can begin to introduce hand signals, moving tooff label and are not indicated for anyone below
use of pictures, and then gradually encouragingthe age of 18 but continue to be prescribed.It
the child to make use of words or phrases tomay require more diligence, effort, and patience,
indicate desires. It is not important initially whetherbut I remain convinced after working with over
the verbalizations are correct but rather that a40 children with developmental challenges, that
verbal attempt was made. When a child displaysrelationship based approaches, rather than
such a behavior as spinning objects, in the floorchemical restraint, prove to be a true means to
time model, we would not be aversive, but ratherteach our children skills, to focus on their
gently introduce a new toy or object and seek tostrengths, to build on their development, and to
divert the child to a more productive activity. Inhelp address challenging behaviors and to address
situations of echolalia, we can say such things asthe real source of conflict and distress rather than
'that's TV talk', and provide means to divert thisjust blunting it.Dan L. Edmunds is a doctoral
to a different means of conversing. It is importantcandidate (abd) in Pastoral Community Counseling.
to provide the child with understandable signalsHe is Board Certified in Sexual Abuse Issues via
and meaningful statements and phrases when wethe American Academy of Experts in Traumatic
are desiring them to behave in a different way.InStress. He has served as a therapist with a
order for children with developmental concerns todiverse population of children and adolescents
be able to integrate more into the social sphere, itincluding many with developmental challenges.
is necessary that they not be isolated intoEdmunds serves as the county autism specialist
situations where they are labeled and shuffledfor a private agency in Northeastern Pennsylvania.
away from typical peers. Rather, they should be