| Copyright (c) 2008 Debra Sale Wendler
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| | example, the food you prepare. This is an
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| If your child has ODD (oppositional
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| | effort to control you, plain and simple.
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| defiant disorder) or bipolar, you're
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| | Catering parents answer food complaints
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| familiar with child behavior problems. If
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| | by making something the child prefers.
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| your child has signs of autism, ADHD or
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| | The ungrateful child wins again. Next
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| ADD (attention deficit disorder),
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| | time he'll complain more so that he can
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| Aspergers, or PDD-NOS (Pervasive
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| | win more. Your child's whining and
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| Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise
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| | complaining will end when you learn how
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| Specified), you may be seeing challenging
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| | to provide his special needs.
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| behaviors.
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| | 4. Argues. Everything is a battle, from
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| Five Warning Signs of Challenging Child
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| | when to wake up, to what to wear, and
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| Behavior:
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| | when to go to bed. This day-long string
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| If you suspect that your child's
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| | of quarrels and disputes is exhausting
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| difficult behavior is something more than
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| | and quickly erodes your relationship.
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| just being a kid, these are the warning
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| | Your child's arguing proves that he
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| signs of a full-fledged challenging
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| | challenges your authority. When he is
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| child.
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| | confident in your authority, he will give
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| 1. Refuses to look up into your eyes.
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| | up some of his need to set his own rules.
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| This is one of the early signs that your
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| | 5. Is oppositional. You say now; your
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| parent-child relationship is in trouble.
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| | child says never. Oppositional children
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| He refuses to look up into your eyes
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| | challenge everything, your requests, your
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| because that gives you power. He doesn't
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| | rules, and your schedule. It's
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| trust you enough to give you that
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| | exhausting, and heart breaking, and can
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| control. To test this, ask your child to
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| | cause you to want to escape your child's
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| sit beside you while you show him
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| | tyranny. Who can blame you?
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| something, for example, a book or
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| | If Your Child is Challenging, Listen Up.
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| picture. Ask a friend or older child to
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| | If you're like 99.99% of parents of
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| observe how your child looks at you.
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| | challenging children, you may be making
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| The solution is to mend your
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| | innocent errors all day long that
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| relationship. It is rare to find anyone
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| | actually make your child's behavior
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| who offers step-by-step advice on how to
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| | worse. Please don't blame yourself. You
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| do this. The first step is to learn and
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| | couldn't possibly have guessed. So you
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| respect your child's special needs
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| | can forgive yourself right now.
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| without getting emotionally overwhelmed
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| | The five warning signs listed above
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| and without catering to his demands. When
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| | reveal how ODD (oppositional defiant
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| you learn how to mend your parent-child
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| | disorder) develops (65% of children with
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| relationship, your child will look up
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| | ADHD develop it). If your child has ODD,
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| into your eyes with respect.
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| | or is developing it, his difficult
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| 2. Refuses to learn from you. Even your
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| | behavior will get worse unless you take
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| simple efforts to teach him how to hold a
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| | action.
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| fork or comb his hair are refused. He has
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| | Your child needs your specific help to
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| decided that you are not to be trusted,
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| | stop these problem behaviors. He cannot
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| and therefore he cannot learn from you.
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| | do it on his own.
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| You can test this by asking your child to
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| | You Can Solve This.
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| sit with you as you teach him something,
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| | The good news is that ODD can be easily
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| for example, how to draw a tree. If the
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| | prevented or minimized. The solution is
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| battles begin, that's your warning. When
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| | easier than you think. If you are seeing
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| you mend your parent-child relationship,
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| | the warning signs that your child is
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| your child will allow you to teach him.
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| | challenging and not just being a typical
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| 3. Whines and complains. No matter how
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| | kid, I invite you to use these parenting
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| hard you try to please him, he always
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| | tips to improve his behavior and improve
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| finds something to complain about, for
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| | your family life.
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