| Autism Eye Contact | | | | said by each child during that eye contact. He did |
| The eyes are "the windows into the soul." When | | | | not want that kind of intimacy and believed that |
| an adult avoids making eye contact, at that | | | | he could get away with more if he did not make |
| moment, he or she is often judged as "dishonest." | | | | eye contact.o "Andria" was in much mental and |
| An autistic child is different only in that his or her | | | | emotional pain and felt isolated. She was trying to |
| dishonesty is frequent and extreme. | | | | push through her resistance to making eye |
| Baby psychology and parent psychology are | | | | contact. However, that resistance was of her |
| interconnected. The subconscious dimension is the | | | | own subconscious making, nevertheless, she was |
| truer and most influential dimension of our | | | | consciously striving to push through and make |
| humanness. There is no understanding autism and | | | | eye contact when asked to do so. She wanted to |
| the true causes of autism without understanding | | | | cooperate, but it was extremely distressing for |
| this key fact. | | | | her. Autism Eye Contacto A teenager, "David," |
| The autistic children that I have clairvoyantly read | | | | increasingly determined that he would not make |
| and reported about usually had a variety of | | | | eye contact. He certainly could because I saw him |
| reasons for not making eye contact with the | | | | deliberately choosing not to do it. He did not want |
| people around them. The most basic reason was | | | | his parents and caretakers to see how he felt |
| that they were being defiant. They were being | | | | about them. He thought his life would be in |
| dishonest and knew they were being defiant and | | | | jeopardy if they knew what he was thinking and |
| did not want "the outside world" to see what | | | | feeling. In addition, he was hoping his perceptions |
| they were truly thinking and feeling. | | | | about his parents were wrong, but he was right. |
| One might call this condition a "psychological | | | | What he was seeing about his parents' deepest |
| disability," but, in truth, it was a subconscious and | | | | thoughts and feelings about him were true as far |
| conscious, "willful defiance" of how the autistic | | | | as I could see.o It was a tremendous emotional |
| children knew they should be. Many autistic | | | | strain for a teenage girl to interact and make eye |
| children, if not all, felt guilty about their "autistic | | | | contact. It was also a physical strain because of |
| behaviors." | | | | her strong resistance to communicating being and |
| The children with autism whom I observed | | | | present to her circumstances. When she |
| consciously knew that much of their behavior was | | | | attempted those things it became overwhelming, |
| wrong. Refusing to make eye contact was one of | | | | her skin actually felt raw and she experienced an |
| several favorite behaviors many opted to | | | | intense physical pressure. The experience became |
| indulge-in. Autism Eye Contact | | | | a struggle between her conscious self and wanting |
| Not to make eye contact was usually a conscious | | | | to please her parents and caretakers, and her |
| decision, unlike not speaking, which was mainly a | | | | stronger subconscious decision not to be present |
| subconsciously decided and a subconsciously | | | | to her situations.o "Tommy" knew that he should |
| orchestrated abnormality. Those mute children | | | | make eye contact so he pretended to do that by |
| with autism consciously believed that they did not | | | | not focusing his eyes and not actually looking at |
| have the ability to speak. Their "inability" seemed | | | | people. |
| due to totally subconscious choices. | | | | Choices to avoid eye contact are essentially |
| The children with autism in my studies knew they | | | | choices not to be honest, not to reach out, not to |
| had the ability to look into the eyes of another | | | | communicate, and not to give. They are selfish |
| person and make eye contact. It was often | | | | reactions. They are willful choices that the child |
| difficult and emotionally painful and most did not | | | | does not have to make. |
| understand why it was so difficult. Nonetheless, it | | | | Making eye contact would be a great help to the |
| was a conscious choice that they knew they | | | | autistic child's mental and emotional life and his or |
| were making. | | | | her entire inner world. When the child refuses to |
| Here are some experiences of the children and | | | | do this, he or she feels isolated with little sense of |
| teens with autism who I clairvoyantly studied:o | | | | reality. If children with autism would make |
| "Oliver" would eye check a teacher when he | | | | consistent choices to make eye contact, those |
| sensed there might be a "perceived reward." He | | | | choices could be the beginning of a path out of |
| would not eye check other children because he | | | | their reaction, isolation, and pain. |
| thought if he did so there was something being | | | | |