| Child behaviour problems can be ever so hard to | | | | to speak in a nasty or rude manner to. You are |
| deal with and every child is different, coming with | | | | remaining in control and that is the key.This might |
| different and unique challenges. But what is the | | | | sound strange but it is necessary to do this |
| biggest problem parents experience with children | | | | sometimes. |
| and what can we do to help fix this problem? | | | | If the rude talk continues obviously you will need |
| One of the biggest issues I hear parents talking | | | | to give your child a consequence, but it is often |
| about is that their child talks rudely or | | | | best not to be done at the time. Any attempts |
| disrespectful to them. There is a saying "what | | | | by the child to negotiate out of a consequence |
| you allow will continue" and it is ever so true. If | | | | should be firmly resisted. There is a time to |
| your child talks to you rudely and you don't do | | | | negotiate but it is not when a child is angry or |
| anything about it, they are not motivated to stop. | | | | emotional. No negotiating should be done then. |
| Parents need to take some action to help change | | | | Many children will respond well to a behaviour |
| the behaviour, or rather make the child want to | | | | chart of some description. Rewards are always |
| change the behaviour. | | | | preferable to punishments. First see if you can |
| One method I often use is to say to them "I will | | | | encourage the good behaviour rather than punish |
| not talk to you when you are talking like that" and | | | | the not so good. I have a sleep out at the end of |
| then I will turn and walk away immediately. When | | | | my house and my three teenage boys get the |
| you walk away you are disengaging, and by doing | | | | chance to earn their way to a month in the sleep |
| so you are saying to the child "that is not | | | | out, rather than sharing a room with their |
| acceptable and I will not tolerate it". Often I will | | | | brothers. This gets them busy focusing on the |
| talk to my child a couple of hours later when they | | | | expected behaviour which works really well |
| are not in a bad mood. We cannot address the | | | | because they all want the end reward. |
| rude talk at that point in time as usually the child | | | | Competitions and challenges work well with most |
| is upset or emotional, and that is definitely NOT | | | | kids. |
| the time to be resolving an issue. | | | | As a parent you need to do whatever it takes to |
| When a parent walks away like this, they actually | | | | change the undesirable behaviour. I hope this helps |
| hold on to their power in the situation by keeping | | | | you to deal with your child behaviour problems. |
| the upper hand. The child no longer has someone | | | | |