| Happiness is a word too often bandied about | | | | of a baby's life. Babies bond with Mothers in |
| today because it is such a difficult word to gain a | | | | nature and humans are no different. A baby first |
| clear definition as to what it really means. It | | | | learns how to manipulate their Mother's emotions |
| seems that people who can communicate well | | | | to get what they want through crying. Mother's |
| seem to have the ability to engender happiness in | | | | learn very quickly what each cry signifies from |
| themselves and in others and this social skill is not | | | | her baby. |
| appreciated as much in our western culture today | | | | Then the baby learns to understand Mothers |
| as it should be. | | | | soothing comforting words followed quickly by |
| Lack of education has a lot to do with bad | | | | reacting to her body language. With Mothers |
| communication skills I think simply because many | | | | returning to the workplace so soon into a new |
| people today lack the vocabulary to describe | | | | born babies life, then getting parked in front of a |
| precisely what they mean or feel. This in turn has | | | | TV to keep them entertained, a child has |
| led to wide use of four-letter swear words that | | | | extremely limited time to learn the social skills |
| depend on voice inflection for meaning yet are still | | | | they need to learn from a Mother. |
| extremely limited for the person expressing the | | | | Fathers are important here too but unless they |
| idea to communicate meaning to the person they | | | | are the first to bond with a baby, it will take |
| are speaking with. This lack of ability to clearly | | | | longer for their influence to become apparent. |
| express their meaning engenders in people a | | | | Anyone, can only do one thing at a time and a |
| feeling of dissatisfaction and unhappiness. | | | | baby cannot bond identically with two people at |
| Unhappiness leads to frustration which leads all the | | | | once. |
| way down the road to anarchy. So in such a | | | | If a child is fortunate enough to have a Mother |
| technology savvy world as we have available to | | | | from whom they can learn these communication |
| us today, why can't we communicate better? | | | | skills early, seems to have much better |
| Simply because we depend on words, written and | | | | communications skills later in life. Some of the |
| spoken, to express ourselves in a meaningful and | | | | best educated people one could ever hope to |
| satisfying way. | | | | come across have some of the most difficulty |
| The spoken word uses voice inflection and is | | | | communicating feelings to people. Here the lack of |
| always accompanied by body language. How we | | | | communication social skills is simply because of |
| hold our mouths, where our eyes look, how we | | | | inability to read the unspoken verbal |
| present our bodies to the person we are having a | | | | communication signals that cannot be learnt from |
| conversation with and a myriad of other smaller, | | | | books. |
| tell-tale signs that humans use everyday to | | | | Good verbal and written communication skills leads |
| communicate with each other. This is a social skill | | | | to a more contented and satisfying social life that |
| we start to learn in early childhood and we build | | | | is a skill set that can best be learnt from |
| upon for the rest of our lives. | | | | interacting with books, family and friends. |
| The problem today begins in the first few months | | | | |