| As parents we are faced with childhood disorders | | | | an appropriate punishment. |
| (like ADHD) which other generations never even | | | | Parents can enforce the consequences quoting |
| had to face. These disabilities create a crisis | | | | the rules set down by the whole family. In this |
| between children and parents and often the | | | | way, they can deflect the child's anger at the |
| quality of the attachment is affected in a negative | | | | parents because the child knows that the |
| way. You may have to face the fact that your | | | | authority of the family is what counts as the rules |
| child has ADHD and you will need help for ADHD. | | | | have been set down beforehand. |
| Whatever the situation parenting techniques will | | | | You can surprise your child by acting in a really |
| always stand you in good stead. | | | | unexpected manner - this is sometimes called a |
| Child abuse and neglect are often a result of poor | | | | guerrilla parenting technique. If a child is fighting, |
| parenting techniques especially where exasperated | | | | then an effective way of dealing with this is to |
| parents go overboard and the results are | | | | get him to do the sibling's chores the next day. |
| dramatic for all concerned. Parents are | | | | That is much more effective than sending him to |
| desperately trying to learn techniques which will be | | | | his room. The fact that he now has to reflect and |
| effective and save them an expensive trip to a | | | | actually take the consequences makes a much |
| child therapist. | | | | greater impact on the misbehaving child. Belittling a |
| Children are so quick to model the behaviour of | | | | child or putting her down is not part of guerrilla |
| their parents. They will not do what the parent | | | | parenting techniques. |
| says, but they will do what the parents have | | | | If you have a child showing a negative, snotty |
| modelled. Children model the behaviours that the | | | | attitude, walk by and hand your child a tissue. See |
| parent has presented to them time and time | | | | if your child figures it out without your help. Don't |
| again. | | | | say anything, just hand it to the child. What about |
| Parents can move in new and unexpected ways, | | | | the child who likes to say, 'That's stupid.' If your |
| which throws the children off guard; it may shift | | | | child says this phrase a lot, say, 'No, this is stupid,' |
| tension and anger to silence and laughter instantly. | | | | and do something really crazy like walk |
| Above all, you use natural consequences for | | | | backwards with your head between your legs. |
| misbehaviour instead of punishment, so the | | | | Then, stroll away and leave the child wondering |
| children have to look at how they created their | | | | what that was all about. |
| predicaments instead of getting angry at their | | | | If your child has been diagnosed with ADHD, you |
| parents for punishing them. Children can no longer | | | | may be a bit wary of ADHD meds which have |
| claim that punishments or expectations are unfair, | | | | some alarming side effects. The Adderall ADHD |
| and parents can take on the role of calmly | | | | drug, for example, was withdrawn in Canada. Find |
| enforcing the pre-arranged consequences instead | | | | out what alternative ADHD treatment is available |
| of having to impress upon the child the | | | | and also how ADHD behavior therapy can help |
| seriousness of the problem and scramble to find | | | | you. |