How Do I Tell Someone Their Child Has Autism?

When your child has autism it can be a veryinformation on autism you should first learn as
difficult situation to deal with. Oftentimes, parentsmuch about the disorder as you can. If you are
may suspect there is something developmentallygoing to approach parents and suggest a diagnosis
wrong with their child, but consciously coming toof autism, you should know what you're talking
grips with the situation can be extremely hard toabout. Furthermore, it is a good idea to be
accept. There are many cases where an autisticsupportive and honest when you tell someone
child is treated as if he or she is a completelyyou believe their child is autistic. Remember many
normal child, out of a sort of blind, but wishfulpeople do not fully understand what autism really
thinking, and these situations can be particularlyis, so it will be up to you to be able to explain the
troubling, for parents and child.disorder and answer any of their initial questions.
If you know someone close to you and youIn addition, autistic children, like other children with
believe their child has autism, it is best that youdevelopmental disabilities, have special needs. If
voice your concerns even if you risk upsettingyou really want to help, you should be ready to
the parents. The reason being is the quicker aprovide information on how to access services
diagnoses is confirmed, the faster interventionsthat address the special needs of the child in
and treatment can be started. Simply ignoring thequestion. When a parent faces the fact that her
problem will never make it go away. In fact,child may be autistic, it can be an overwhelming
pretending that a child does not have autism cansensation due to the fact that the resulting
actually exacerbate symptoms and problematicchanges will be life-altering for the people directly
behaviors instead of redefining and helping toinvolved.
structure them. Raising an autistic child, dependingWhen you raise your concerns with someone in
on the severity of the disorder, can be anyour family or really close to you, you should
extraordinarily difficult task that can take both analways try to do so sensitively - pick your
emotional and physical toll on parents and familymoment and don't just blurt it out at a family
members.gathering or in public. Remember, the news you
However, there are forms of treatment andare going to deliver can be initially devastating.
interventions that can truly help, so the sooner aMake sure you know enough so you can answer
child is diagnosed the easier it can be.the majority of questions that will be thrown at
Basic psychology suggests that when youyou. Most importantly, be yourself and make sure
approach someone about a potentially troublingthe person knows that you care and are
situation it is better for all concerned if theconcerned for them and their child.
situation is handled in a gentle manner. Obviously,Try to offer information about methods of
if you are going to tell someone close to you thattreatment that will shed some positive slant on
you believe their child is autistic, it pays to beautism. Inform your friend or family member that
sensitive. If you are straightforward and discussthere are thousands of scientists and researchers
the matter in a calm, sensitive way, you canworking on ways to better treat autism. You
avert any possible hostility in return. Many parentsshould also have a list of resources available. This
may react angrily and deny the suggestion theirlist can include websites, local clinics, cutting-edge
child is autistic, so it is probably a good idea toresearch and anything else you feel can give a
have some literature with you to back up whyrealistic, but positive approach to autism. Have a
you feel their child may be autistic. It is alsolook through the previous posts on the blog for
important to explain the different levels of autismlinks to sites that could provide a great starting
and their effects.point for a parent learning about autism for the
If you are prepared to provide some meaningfulfirst time.