How To Work With Your Autistic Child For Social Settings

Current studies indicate that about one out ofOne of the ways to allow your autistic child to
about 160 children is affected with autism orlearn how to act and behave in the general public
some type or level of autistic spectrum disorder.is via role playing at home. You can pretend to be
One of the biggest problems with having anat a social gathering such as a school picnic and do
autistic child is that they do not care to or cannotrole-playing, which will allow your child to become
participate in social functions or social gatheringscomfortable with this setting gradually over a
and they have trouble communicating verbally.period of time. Keep your role playing sessions
This clearly creates problems for the child as theyshort at home, since the attention span of an
develop and mature because they do not interactautistic child is limited, and forcing them to
with children of their own age group to learn howcontinue with it after their attention is exhausted
to act and behave in a social setting.will simply put a negative spin on being in such a
This aspect presents a very unique challenge tosocial situation, which is the opposite of what you
the parents of an autistic child. Needless to say, itare trying to achieve.
is difficult to accept the fact that your child isOne of the traits of an autistic child is that they
afflicted with autism, but of course as parents,do not look people in the eye. It is unknown why
you want to do everything you can for your childthis is the case but it is thought to perhaps be a
to allow them to lead as normal a life as possible.function of the child actually realizing that they are
Some parents are even in denial of the fact thatnot the same as their peers, and this aspect is a
their child has autism, but the quicker you asreflection of a sign of low self-esteem. While
parents can accept that fact, the sooner you canthere is no way to prove that via scientific
deal with it and get the specialized help that yourstudies, that is a popular train of thought.
autistic child needs at this point in theirWhatever the cause though, you may want to
development.work with your child at home, and perhaps even
As a parent, you may need to develop a thickwith a reward system for when they are able to
skin. What this means is that some people in thelook you in the eyes. The model of "proper
general public will make rude remarks orbehavior warrants a reward" has been effective
comments about an autistic child. While mostfor many, but do not make the reward large, just
people will accept that fact and be helpful andsomething very small, like being allowed to play
sympathetic, you need to be emotionally preparedwith their favorite toy.
for the occasional thoughtless jerk who makes aIt will take work, but as parents, you have the
rude or crude comment about your autistic child.ability to help shape your child's future. Do not put
It does you no good to get angry orthe entire task on the shoulders of the school, but
embarrassed or to cause a scene, and you needrather, work with your child at home to create a
to be pacified with the fact that the jerk whopleasant and loving atmosphere, and to work with
made the comment makes himself look incrediblyyour autistic child to help them function.
stupid to others via his remark.