| Children are born with the instinct to cry when | | | | Stop giving in and hold your ground. You are not a |
| they need to express their wants and needs. As | | | | bad parent if you deny your child a want. Your |
| infants that is the only way they can | | | | job as a parent is to provide all of their needs and |
| communicate. As children get older, they learn the | | | | supply occasional wants that you approve of. If |
| vocabulary needed to express their desires. | | | | the child wants a new toy, talk with them about |
| Unfortunately, not every desire can be fulfilled. | | | | why they want it. This does not mean you rush |
| Whether it is because a parent does not feel the | | | | out and buy it. If you approve of the toy, talk to |
| child actually needs it, or because it is unsafe. | | | | your child about what they can do to earn said |
| When a child is told no, they often resort to their | | | | toy. |
| first learned instinct of crying. Children with ODD | | | | Lastly, if the child does not calm down, do not |
| or ADHD may resort to tantrums as a way to | | | | discuss the situation any longer. They will |
| express their dissatisfaction. | | | | eventually get past it. This helps the child learn |
| When these episodes occur, many parents will | | | | valuable coping skills. Just remember to stay calm |
| often give in to the child's demands. This is usually | | | | during the outbursts, and the child will follow your |
| because they do not want to hear the child's | | | | lead. |
| arguments or because the child has successfully | | | | Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate |
| embarrassed the parent. Unfortunately, giving in | | | | your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior |
| to a child's wants as a result of these tactics is | | | | without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral |
| only teaching them those behaviors work. | | | | Plans, or Rewards? |