Social Skills - So What is Happiness Really?

Happiness is different things to different peoplenurtured by themselves and it is offered and
and that is why it is so hard to find a realgiven with a happy smile of welcome.
meaning for the word. Happiness is just a word toSo what makes a wealthy person miserable and a
describe a state of being. A State of being issubsistence farmer happy? I have long ago come
ephemeral; it is not a physical thing even thoughto the conclusion that the word to describe this
you are existing in a physical world. A person hasstate of being is contentment.
to be a physical person to experience a state ofThe person in our western culture who has
'being'.everything still wants and lusts after more. They
So many things make so many people happy. Toare rarely content with what they have and
experience a state of happiness you must have aalways want more or better. This constant state
sense of being happy. Sounds obvious, but it isn'tof lusting does not allow for any contentment or
as obvious as we all take for granted. How manypleasure in what they have. It is now the driving
times lately have you asked yourself "am Iforce behind the world financial system and our
happy"? Next, consider what made you askconsumer based economies.
yourself that question and more importantly, whatAll these possessions become problems for
did you answer?wealthy people and cause stress. It becomes
Being happy is so different for everyone. Havingvery stressful for them to find ways of holding
more of something does not equate to making aonto them. It is stressful in being loaded with so
person happier than someone else. Some of themuch 'stuff' that after a while it becomes
most miserable people I have ever come acrossoverloading because everything needs to be
have had a lot of everything. Money, food,maintained or cared for in some way. They are
shelter, friends (real and sycophants) power,always running around the edges of their
education,family and anything else that couldpossessions rather than enjoying or taking
possibly make a human being happy.pleasure in having them. This does not bring about
Some of the happiest people I have ever had thethe state of being we know as contentment.
pleasure of meeting have been the least likely youThe person who has little, needs little, makes
would ever expect to show happiness. Peoplewhat they need and can enjoy the fruits of their
who are subsistence dwellers, who grow all theirlabour literally, have the time to consider, savour,
food in their own plots, have absolutely noenjoy, appreciate their success. The fact that
money, live in makeshift housing, have nothey are eating, have a roof over their heads,
education, no likelihood of ever having any of thehave friends and family with whom they want to
'western culture' creature comforts, yet never failshare their good fortune they themselves have
to offer a visitor a glass of water or sharemade, brings them a great feeling of well-being,
whatever food they have available; whether it issatisfaction and engenders in their state of being
a banana or a drink of coconut milk. All thesea feeling of contentment. These seem to be the
offerings come from their own work, planted andhappiest people on earth that I have yet met.