Maturity Through Accountability

An important part of growing up and maturing isthem to stand up against peer pressure and turn
learning how to handle responsibility. Holding yourdown that offered cigarette. If they don't, saying
children accountable for things like doing choresthat all the other kids were doing it is not an
around the house, keeping up their grades andexcuse. They should understand that the
making good decisions plays a crucial role in theirpunishment they might receive is far better than
development into mature young adults.the negative effects smoking will have on their
You can start holding your children accountable forbodies.
things at a young age by starting with somethingIt is a parent's job to tell their children the ins and
small, like putting their toys away. By giving yourouts of life, whether or not their children are
children this small responsibility to start with, youactually listening. However, it is important to let
can set them up for greater duties when theyyour children make some of their own decisions.
are older. It is important that they uphold theirThis will give them a sense of independence and
responsibilities and know that there arewill make them feel like an adult. This may
consequences when they do not. This will showsometimes mean they make their own mistakes
your children the importance of doing what isas well, but as long as they are held accountable
expected of them and not skiving off theirfor their actions, a lesson can be learned from
responsibilities.these mistakes. If children do something wrong
Children should also be held accountable for theirthen nothing happens to them, they have not
behavior. If a teacher comes to you and tells youlearned anything except what they can get away
that your son has been acting up in class, blamingwith. The purpose of holding your child
the teacher will send the wrong message to youraccountable for their actions is not only to give
child. By blaming the teacher you are teachingthem a sense of responsibility, but to teach them
your son that he is not accountable for hisright from wrong as well.
actions.Holding your children accountable for the decisions
If you've set standards for behavior for yourthey make can help make them better problem
children, it is important that they adhere to them.solvers. If they know their actions have
They need to know that you have made rulesconsequences they will be more likely to think
for a reason and that there will be consequencessomething through before acting on it.
for not following them.Accountability is about getting them to think
This applies especially to rules we make to ensurethings through for themselves and learn about
our children are safe and healthy. If you teachresponsibility before they become adults so that
your children that smoking is bad, you expectthey will know how to handle it when they do.